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Hi there. Thanks for reaching out. It makes sense that you want to help your teenager. You care about them, and you want them to have support. If it’s not something that they are open to, insisting that they join a group usually wouldn’t help, especially for nonbinary or neurodivergent young people. Feeling pressured can make them more stressed or shut down. They will need feel that they have some sense of input and control.
Here are some ideas:
- Listen first
Ask them why they don’t want to join a group.
Maybe it feels scary, too social, too personal or too tiring. Their reasons matter.
- Give them choices, not pressure
Instead of saying “you must go,” you could say:
- “Would you like to try once and then decide?”
- “Would you prefer online support? One to one support? A quiet space?”
Neurodivergent teens often feel better when they have a sense of control and clear choices.
- Show support in other ways
A support group is only one option. They might prefer:
- Talking to a therapist or other trusted adult
- Online resources
- Books or videos made by and for non‑binary people
- A quiet peer support space with fewer people
There is no ‘one right way’, and lots of different options.
- Keep the door open
You could say something like:
“I think support could be good for you, but it is entirely your choice and I will support you in the way that makes most sense for you. If you ever change your mind, I’ll help you find something safe and comfortable.”
This shows you care without pushing.
- Take care of your relationship
Feeling understood is often more helpful than any group you child would attend. Be there for them in an open, positive way. Listen, reassure and let them lead, while encouraging them in partnership.
I wish you both the very best! And if you have any other questions – get in touch with us here.
In Pride,
Edel