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Thank you for reaching out. It’s wonderful that your son felt able to share this news, even if he is struggling with it himself. Your support and acceptance are already one of the most important protective factors for his wellbeing.
It’s quite common for young people to need time to come to terms with their identity. He may be dealing with fear, confusion or worries about how others will react. If he’s refusing groups right now, give him space and time. Gentle encouragement and letting him know the option is always there can be more effective. Sometimes just knowing support exists helps. And maybe things might change in the future.
If you think he might be open to a one to one type of support, and you’re in a position to do this, you might ask if he would be willing to speak to a counsellor – emphasizing that this would be around gaining more acceptance of himself just as he is.
At home, the most helpful thing is to keep communication open. Let him know you love him exactly as he is, and that there is no pressure to “figure everything out” immediately. Listen more than you talk and follow his lead. He will get there.
If you are interested in some more support for yourself, please reach out to me using the form on this page. I am always happy to talk to you about your experience and how things are going.
You’re doing the right thing by reaching out, your care and patience will make a real difference to him.
In Pride,
Edel