How Do I Know If I Am Trans?

How Do I Know If I Am Trans?

There is no single ‘right’ way for a person to figure out that they are Trans. However, certain things may indicate a Trans identity:

  • When you don’t feel comfortable when being referred to as a boy/girl, or man/woman.
  • When a wrong pronoun is used to describe you, it may also trigger discomfort.
  • Some people may feel that their body is not in line with their deeply felt sense of self. The way their body looks on the outside may not match with who they feel they are on the inside.
  • The development of sex characteristics (such as breasts, facial  hair, etc) during puberty can be a particularly traumatic experience for some Trans young people. This may result in a heightened level of body image issues. Gender dysphoria is a term to describe this discomfort.

If I am not sure, what do I do?

  • Write and/or talk about how you are feeling in a journal or with someone you trust. If you are to talk to someone, it is important to choose the right person, and ideally someone who understands Trans issues.
  • Meet with a counsellor here at BeLonG To, at your school, college or university, or with an adult you trust.
  • Become part of a Trans peer group such as our group for trans and non-binary people called IndividualiTy. If this does not exist in your area, consider attending an LGBTI+ youth group.
  • Talk to your GP or other medical professional about how you are feeling.
  • Get in touch with us for more support and advice: call 01 670 6223 or email


I think I am Trans, what now?

  • Express your gender identity in a way that feels right for you. Small steps in doing this can make a big difference.
  • Try out a different name and/or different pronoun (he, she, or gender-neutral pronouns like ze/they) when you refer to yourself in a diary, journal or on social media.
  • It is important to remember that you are entitled to use whatever name and pronoun you feel comfortable with.
  • It is perfectly okay to have whatever gender identity that you feel comfortable with, and only you can decide what that is.
  • Your gender identity is one part of who you are, and regardless how you identify, it is not the only thing that defines you.
  • Talking to others that have been through the same or similar  situation can be really helpful.