Better Out Than In
Growing up can be tough, and being LGBTQ+ can bring more challenges. Taking the brave step of opening up to someone about your worries and fears, no matter how big or small, is worth it.
This Better Out Than In hub allows you to check out face-to-face, online, phone, and text supports so you can share what’s going on.
We’ve talked to LGBTQ+ young people, and they have let us know what stops them from opening up and talking about feelings of anxiety, sadness, and shame. You may have had some of these thoughts yourself. Read on to learn more about these topics.
“I don’t want to waste anyone’s time. There are other people with much bigger problems out there.”
Some LGBTQ+ young people we spoke to felt that their problems were not big enough to warrant support. They told us that they compare themselves to other people whose challenges seem much worse, and that they don’t want to waste time or take up resources that another young person could use. Comparing your pain to other people’s and judging yourself is called comparative suffering. Everyone experiences difficult times in life, and it looks different for everyone. Support services are available for you no matter how big, or small your challenges are. You deserve to get support and live your life to the full.
“I’m afraid of seeing a therapist. I have no idea what to expect.”
There are trained therapists who understand the issues that LGBTQ+ young people face. They will provide a space for you to talk about what is going on. You can share as much or as little as you like, and your therapist will help you understand what is going on for you and help you discover tools to manage your mental health. Therapists are trained to be non-judgemental, and conversations are confidential.
Therapy is usually a weekly space that lasts for an hour. If you visit a therapist and they are not a good fit for you, it’s OK to try someone else. What is important is that you feel comfortable and safe in the space. In the first session, the therapist will talk to you about how they work, and what sessions are like, and ask you to share why you are coming to therapy. Some people attend therapy for a few weeks and others use this support space for a longer time. It’s about doing what feels right for you.
“Lots of my friends experience anxiety. It’s normal to feel like this.”
Some of the LGBTQ+ young people that we spoke to told us that they are not alone in feeling anxious, overwhelmed, and sad. They told us that many of their friends feel this way and that it’s normal to feel like this. It is normal to feel this way sometimes. Most people feel low sometimes, and nobody feels happy all of the time. But if these times are becoming more frequent or starting to impact you, please get some support. Try talking to a friend or family member and let them know how you feel. Below you will find support services for LGBTQ+ youth from us at Belong To and mental health providers. We are here for you – no matter what is going on.
“I’ve come out as LGBTQ+, so I should be happy.”
Many LGBTQ+ people say that coming out to family and friends feels like lifting a massive weight off their shoulders. For some people, it is a positive, freeing experience. For others, it can be challenging as loved ones take time to come to terms with this news. What is important to remember is that coming out is not an endpoint. It is the beginning of a time of transition and self-discovery. How you view yourself has changed, and how the world views you have changed. It is important to show yourself kindness and be patient with yourself. During times of transition, it can be helpful to get support and talk to a supportive friend, or family member, or get in touch with a support service.
If you are not ready to talk, you can text
50808 is a free, anonymous, 24/7 messaging service providing everything from a calming chat to immediate support. 50808 provides a safe space where you’re listened to by a trained Volunteer. You’ll message back and forth, only sharing what you feel comfortable with. By asking questions, listening to you, and responding with support, they will help you sort through your feelings until you both feel you are now in a calm, safe place.
Text LGBTI+ to 50808 anytime when you need support.
A trained volunteer will listen to you and help you think more clearly, enabling you to know that you can take the next step to feel better.
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